Why It’s Worth Eating Out for Lunch and Why It’s Not

Today I broke with routine and ate lunch at a restaurant. Well, actually at one of those American soup and sandwich stores which are popping up around here in a likely failed attempt to beat Tim Horton’s at the quick and convenient game. While walking afterwards, I noted spring migration is likely to be summer migration this year. Aside from a few Cardinals, Goldfinches, Robins, Chickadees, and Downy’s, all of whom had struggled through this icy, snowy winter alongside us with nary a moment in the Sunshine states, I was alone with my thoughts. Being a cheapskate conscientious spender, I contemplated why eating out for lunch had been worth it, and why it had not.

A Quick Review of the Cost of Lunch

$8.68 one sandwich (which turned out to be two sandwiches when served),
one lengthwise quarter of a dill pickle, and
one perfect two-bite apple (actually I like this size but I think our guinea pigs would have been unimpressed)

A Quick Review of the Cost of Supper

3.99 pound of ground turkey
0.50 2-pound bag of large carrots at 1.99, at least 8, used 2, so say 50 cents
0.25 1 from a huge bag of yellow cooking onions, I have no idea how many per bag so I’m just randomly guessing a cost
0.75 head of celery at 2.99, at least 12 stalks, used 3
0.50 bay leaves, parsley, sage, rosemary, thyme
1.98 two large cans of tomatoes with herbs and spices
0.50 long grain rice
0.75 flour
0.15 baking powder
0.02 salt
1.00 milk
0.40 shortening
$10.79

I’ve overestimated some of the costs to keep it simple.

Yep, that’s turkey soup and biscuits and/or dumplings depending on the child. Yes, it’s not very glamorous cooking. My children will eat some pretty amazing things happily but there’s not much wrong with giving them what they want once in a while.

Besides there are leftover chocolate cupcakes (yes, also homemade from scratch) for dessert. So everyone is happy.

That $10.79 is a little misleading because there will also be 2-3 lunches worth of leftovers as well as supper for all of us.

Why Eating Lunch Out Isn’t Worth It

It probably doesn’t take an advanced degree in Mathematics to see why I think it’s not worth it from a $$ and ¢¢ point of view to eat out.

Why Eating Lunch Out Is Worth It

I met with 3 of my peers for lunch. None of us work together or in the same field. Our common ground is our children, some of whom have been in each other’s classes since kindergarten.

We talked about

  • High schools and who was going where and why and perhaps more importantly not going where and why
  • Graduations
  • Field trips
  • Sleep-away camps
  • Good and bad teachers and administrative staff
  • Summer jobs
  • Possible career choices
  • Peer and romantic relationships and the hazards thereof
  • Sweet 16 Parties, from pizza out with a best friend to extravaganzas that make weddings look tame
  • Caring for parents who are frail and in failing health when families are divided and cultures collide

Was that worth $8.68?
Every penny.

Spending Mindfully Is Worth It

There’s nothing wrong with spending money. Choosing where to spend it to bring you the most satisfaction at an affordable cost is the trick.

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When School Lunches Go Bad

This year, for the first time, my child had forms come home to pre-order lunches for every day of the week. (At the last school, the most my child could order was a pizza “lunch” twice a month. That lunch consisted of a slice or more of pizza, a fruit cup packed in fruit juice, and a carton of milk.) This year, my child could order pizza, subs and pitas. The profits would go to various school projects. Wow! My child wouldn’t have to pack a lunch all year! Sounds great, right?

Not to me.

Bad Idea 1: Nutritional Numbers Don’t Add Up for School Lunches

The first thing I noticed was that even the minor attempt made at providing a nutritious lunch had evaporated. Gone was the included serving of fruit and dairy products. If you bought these lunches they consisted of the “entrée” so to speak and nothing else. So you could get a slice of pizza but it didn’t come with any carrot sticks, an apple or a glass of milk.

The “entrées” themselves wouldn’t score well on a test, either. I’m sure if the Toronto Star column The Dish investigated they would find the offerings high in fat, salt and calories but otherwise low in food value. The pizza offered, for instance, is cheese or pepperoni. I suppose if the USDA could try to count ketchup as a serving of a vegetable, someone could try to count the pizza sauce as one. I don’t. In fact I wouldn’t even give it part marks.

What do nutritionists usually recommend about these kinds of foods? Round them out with nearly naked salads and milk and don’t indulge in them too often. Is 20+ days a month too often? Can you guess my answer?

Bad Idea 2: Paying for Something You Don’t Want to Support a Worthy Cause

I like the things the school was doing with the money raised by selling these meals. That doesn’t make it a good way to contribute, however. If I bought 10 boxes of chocolate almonds from every cause I believed in I would be roughly three times larger than I am now. Eating too much of the wrong food just to support a project or charity is silly. I sent a cheque in to the school instead.

Bad Idea 3: Not Teaching my Child about Budgeting and Saving

The worst part of this lunch program from my viewpoint, however, was what it was going to teach my child subconsciously. To wit: “When you go to work, buy lunch every day. Don’t even try to buy a nutritious lunch. Buy something tasty and frivolous.”

I want my child to know how to pack a lunch. I want my child to experiment with different kinds of foods and find things that taste good, are nutritious, and make eating lunch feel rewarding and fun. My child should see that it is cheaper to pack a lunch than to buy one. Getting my child to help grocery shop for lunch items teaches my child about how to get the most for a limited amount of money.

Good Idea! How to Buy Lunch at School and Learn Something Useful

Now you’re probably thinking I’m one of those people who sprouts beans between paper towels pilfered from the workplace washroom on the air vents near the windows and who grows yoghurt in an old margarine tub in the back of the fridge in the break room. Ok, maybe I do. Could be. [Whistles off key and tries to look innocent.]

BUT

I do understand that one of the simple joys that makes work (including school) bearable is to have food that’s fun to eat and, when applicable, to go out to eat it with some friends. It’s a great idea. It just shouldn’t happen every day. That just makes it routine and half or more of the enjoyment is lost.

So I gave my child a budget. The monthly money could be divied up and spent on any of the lunch offerings. For example, my child could buy one (large) slice of pizza 4 days a month. Or two slices, twice a month. Or a pita, a sub and two slices of pizza. You get the idea.

We also made plans (that worked) for my child to take the rest of the missing parts of that lunch from home. Including, yes, some homemade chocolate chip cookies or butterscotch squares. (I’m interested in nutrition but I also understand the joy of sugar!)

Valuable Lessons Learned from a School Lunch Program

So my child learned some valuable lessons from a simple school lunch program

  • give directly to charity if you don’t want or need the gimmick
  • budget some enjoyment into your week
  • eat out when you plan to, and as you like to, to maximize the feeling of getting a treat
  • add extra nutrition to your day affordably by packing stuff from home
  • bagging a lunch does not have to be boring if you explore for things you really enjoy

PS Yes I know that when grown up my child will probably eat out every lunch because of me. Probably every supper too.

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